Man asks for advice on ‘cancelling engagement and getting ring back’

Cheating man who drunkenly proposed to the ‘wrong’ girlfriend reveals he’s considering calling off the engagement to get the £1,800 ring back – and give it to his LOVER instead

  • British man who drunkenly proposed to wrong girlfriend asked Reddit for advice
  • Revealed he proposed to girlfriend on New Year’s Eve with a ring meant for lover
  • Asked how he could break off engagement and retrieve the ring for his colleague
  • Later returned to thread to say he was staying with his fiance and quitting job 

A man who drunkenly proposed to his girlfriend with the ring he planned to give his lover has asked for advice on cancelling the engagement.

The unnamed British man took to Reddit this week, revealing that he had bought the ring for his work colleague who he had been sleeping with, and planned on popping the question to her during an upcoming holiday.

However after having a few too many drinks on New Year’s Eve, he got swept up in the excitement of the night and got down on one knee, proposing to his girlfriend who happily accepted.

In a further twist, the hapless man- who names himself ‘Propermistakeregret’, revealed he wanted to get the ring back so he could give it to his lover.

A British man who drunkenly proposed to his girlfriend with the ring he planned to give his work colleague asked Redditers for advice on cancelling the engagement and giving the ring to his lover

Taking to the discussion forum this week, the man wrote: ‘I’m seeing someone else, wanted to break up with her. 

‘I bought the ring for a work colleague, wasn’t planning to propose until the holiday we planned.’

Explaining the fateful night, he continued: ‘During New Year’s Eve, I proposed to my girlfriend. 


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It’s been posted on my friend’s Snapchat, my girlfriend’s Facebook page, everywhere.’

Giving a rather odd explanation as to why he proposed, he added: ‘I saw people proposing so I wanted to go with the flow and proposed to my girlfriend whilst partially pi**ed. Can I get the ring back and cancel the engagement please?’.

‘You’re sh** out of luck because a gift is a gift’: His confession was met with horror from other users online, who argued that the ring was a ‘gift’ he couldn’t get back

And his confession was met with horror from other users online, who argued that the ring was a ‘gift’ he couldn’t get back.  

Suggesting he tell his girlfriend the truth, one user wrote: ‘Well, from a legal perspective you’re sh** out of luck because a gift is a gift, even when given by a moron.

‘However, there is a solution: tell your (current/accidental) fiancée about the mistake. Honesty may actually be your best policy here, because I suspect that the realisation that you are such an utter fungus of a person will lead her to take the ring off and fling it.

‘If you’re lucky, you may be able to find it and then can give your ex-fiancée’s sloppy seconds to your bit on the side.’

Agreeing that honesty was the best policy, another said: ‘Isn’t the obvious solution to just tell the truth to your soon-to-be ex girlfriend?

‘I’m sure she’ll rip the ring off her finger and throw it at you, just like in the movies. Plus you’d also break up, killing two birds with one stone.’ 

Agreeing that honesty was the best policy and she would probably throw the ring at him, another said: ‘Isn’t the obvious solution to just tell the truth to your soon-to-be ex girlfriend?’

Arguing that he should take it as a lesson not to cheat, one user wrote:  ‘Unfortunately unless your girlfriend is willing to give the ring back you are ‘up the creek without a paddle’ as they say.

‘Time to write it off and learn an expensive lesson not to date two people at the same time!’.

Meanwhile many more users told him he would not be allowed to demand the ring back, as it would be classified as a gift.

‘Legally the ring belongs to her, unless you placed conditions on it when giving it to her’, one person argued.

But the man in question didn’t seem convinced, taking to the thread to confess he was still thinking about taking the ring and giving it to his lover.

He wrote: ‘How am I going to propose to my work colleague then? We’re going on holiday and I wont have a ring. what happens if I take the ring from her without her knowing? We live together at the moment so I could easily do it. It’s not theft really is it, I mean I bought it’. 

The man in question returned to the thread to reveal he had spent £1800 on the ring and argued he was drunk so could perhaps demand it back

‘Time to write it off and learn an expensive lesson not to date two people at the same time!’, users said, explaining that he could not get the ring back

And despaired users quickly slammed his idea, encouraging him to terminate both relationships.

‘The fact that you want to propose to one woman while engaged to the other seems like a far bigger problem. You need to extricate yourself from this relationship you’re unhappy in, before you do anything else.

‘Also, it’s not legal advice, but you want to marry a colleague, while you’re in a long term relationship? That does not sound healthy. Nor does your decision to ‘get engaged to go with the flow’.’

And despite the hundreds of comments urging him to take an honest approach and end both relationships, the man later took to the thread again to reveal his surprise decision. 

‘We live together at the moment so I could easily do it. It’s not theft really is it, I mean I bought it”: The man in question didn’t seem convinced, taking to the thread to confess he was still thinking about taking the ring and giving it to his lover

Revealing that he had decided to quit his job and stay with his fiancee, he wrote: ‘I’ve had a long and hard think to myself, I decided to hand in my four week notice to my boss and start afresh. 

‘I think it’s best my girlfriend doesn’t find out about the affair I’ve been having so I’ve spoke to my colleague and told her I’m not going on holiday with her and I’ve ended it with her. 

‘I’ve known my girlfriend longer and my mum gave me a call saying she’s happy and she’s always wanted grandchildren and what not so I didn’t want to disappoint my mum.’

Further explaining the reasons behind his decision, he added: ‘I’m going to marry my girlfriend. She already planned out the wedding venue on her MacBook, she hid it from me, so I didn’t want to upset her. 

‘Genuinely I feel bad if I were to break up with her, she’s been buzzing all day calling all her friends saying she’s getting married and taking photos of her ring etc. I think it’s the right thing to do. 

‘Just worried that my colleague will somehow get a hold of my girlfriend and tell her about the times we’ve slept together. That’s my final decision and I think I’ll stick to that.’

‘I’m staying with her’: And despite the hundreds of comments urging him to take an honest approach and end both relationships, the man later took to the thread again to reveal his surprise decision

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