Jessica Simpson reveals that John Mayer was 'obsessed with her

Jessica Simpson reveals in her memoir that John Mayer was ‘obsessed with her ‘sexually and emotionally’… as she says his ‘sexual napalm’ comment made it ‘easy’ for her ‘to walk away’

  • Jessica Simpson dated John Mayer from 2006 until they split the following year
  • In 2010, he called the songstress ‘sexual napalm’ in an interview with Playboy 
  • Jessica opened up about their turbulent relationship in her new memoir Open Book, as well as how shocked she felt after his comments
  • The mother of three also revealed in her memoir, out February 4, that she was abused by a family friend when she was a child
  • The 39-year old singer said the abuse started when she was six years old and that she kept it secret for several years
  • She told her parents, Tina and Joe Simpson, six years after the abuse began 
  • The star said the abuse, as well as career pressures, later contributed to her abusing alcohol and pills in a bid to cope with the emotional pain
  • Jessica revealed she hit rock bottom in 2017 after a Halloween party at her home, sought help and has been sober for three years

She recently revealed in her upcoming memoir Open Book that she was sexually abused as a child, which was one of the factors that led to an addiction to alcohol and pills.

And Jessica Simpson also opened up about her turbulent relationship with John Mayer from 2006 until their split in 2007, another factor that led her to drinking.

The 39-year-old star said that after just a few months of dating, John repeated told her how ‘obsessed’ he was with her, ‘sexually and emotionally.’

The way they were: Jessica Simpson also opened up about her turbulent relationship with John Mayer from 2006 until their split in 2007, another factor that led her to drinking; pictured May 7, 2007 in NYC

After her divorce from Nick Lachey in 2005, she started dating – while John kept sending her notes.

At this point, the singer told her that ‘he wanted to have all of me or nothing,’ she wrote in her memoir via People.

Jessica ‘didn’t really know the man behind the guitar. And that was my mission.’

Of his charisma, Jessica said: ‘He’d walk into a room and pick up his guitar and you’d swoon.’ 

Looking back: The 39-year-old star said that after just a few months of dating, John repeated told her how ‘obsessed’ he was with her, ‘sexually and emotionally;’ pictured May 7, 2007 in NYC; pictured on September 26, 2019 in NYC

In her memoir, the mother of three said she met the singer in early 2005 at Clive Davis’ Grammy party.

He came up to her and told her he admired her song With You, which she had written; following their meeting, he began writing her notes. 

After secretly dating a few months, she fell in love with his intensity, as she recalled: ‘Again and again, he told me he was obsessed with me, sexually and emotionally,’ she wrote in her memoir.

She felt insecure around John, 42, because she thought she wasn’t ‘smart enough’ for him: ‘He was so clever and treated conversation like a friendly competition that he had to win.’

Her insecurity was so bad she asked a friend to read over her text messages for spelling and grammar.

However, ‘my anxiety would spike and I would pour another drink. It was the start of me relying on alcohol to mask my nerves.’

Adding: ‘He loved me in the way that he could and I loved that love for a very long time. Too long. And I went back and forth with it for a long time. But it did control me.’ 

Long time ago: After secretly dating a few months, she fell in love with his intensity, as she recalled: ‘Again and again, he told me he was obsessed with me, sexually and emotionally,’ she wrote in her memoir;’ pictured February 27, 2007

 Three years after their split, John did an interview with Playboy magazine, where he said: ‘That girl, for me, is a drug. And drugs aren’t good for you if you do lots of them. Yea, that girl is like crack cocaine to me. Sexually it was crazy. That’s all I’ll say. It was like napalm. sexual napalm.’ 

The comments she said were ‘shocking,’ because ‘a woman and how they are in bed is not something that is ever talked about.’

Jessica said that she believes that ‘he thought that was what I wanted to be called,’ but instead she was ‘floored and embarrassed that my grandmother was actually gonna read that.’

The result of his statements was a breaking of her trust because by saying those things, he was not loyal to her: ‘He was the most loyal person to me on the planet and when I read that he wasn’t, that was it for me. I erased his number. He made it easy for me to walk away.’ 

While he eventually publicly apologized, they do not talk anymore: ‘I think he knows a lot of this about me already but he doesn’t know the perspective I have as a woman. That was Jess in her 20s.’

Jessica is married Eric Johnson in 2014 after dating for four years; they have three children together: daughters Maxwell, seven, and Birdie, 10 months, and son Ace, six.

She said she’s never had ‘that type of connection’ when she met him in 2010.

Family is everything: Jessica is married Eric Johnson in 2014 after dating for four years; they have three children together: daughters Maxwell, seven, and Birdie, 10 months, and son Ace, six

In addition to her memoir, which will be released on February 4., she will record an audio book and writing music again. 

In her memoir, the star revealed she was sexually abused as a child and that the emotional trauma was among the factors that later led to her self-medicating with alcohol and pills.

Jessica opened up about the abuse by a family friend when she was six years old and how she kept it secret from her parents until she was 12 in her upcoming memoir Open Book. 

‘(It happened) when I shared a bed with the daughter of a family friend,’ Jessica wrote in an excerpt of the memoir published by People. 

‘It would start with tickling my back and then go into things that were extremely uncomfortable.’ 

Jessica said the abuse started when she was six years old and that she kept it secret for several years.

‘I wanted to tell my parents… I was the victim but somehow I felt in the wrong,’ Simpson said. 

She told her parents, Tina and Joe Simpson, six years after the abuse began. 

The mother of three recalls being in the car with her parents on a trip when she told them about what had happened to her. 

She remembers her mother slapping her dad’s arm and saying: ‘I told you something was happening’.

‘Dad kept his eye on the road and said nothing,’ she said. 

‘We never stayed at my parents’ friends house again but we also didn’t talk about what I had said.’ 

It is not clear how long the abuse went on for or if it was an isolated incident.  

Jessica said the abuse, as well as career pressures, later contributed to her abusing alcohol and pills in a bid to cope with the emotional pain.

‘I was killing myself with all the drinking and pills,’ she said.  

She said she buried her anxiety as her singing career took off and her three-year marriage to Nick Lachey was documented on reality TV show Newlyweds. 

Childhood: Jessica (second from right) said the abuse started when she was six years old and that she kept it secret for several years. She told her parents, Tina and Joe Simpson, six years after the abuse began. She is pictured with her parents and younger sister Ashlee


Growing up: The singer (pictured above) said the abuse started when she was six years old and that she kept it secret for several years

Only her close friends and family knew of the abuse, she said. 

In her memoir, Simpson said she hit rock bottom in 2017 after a Halloween party at their family home.

She recalls telling her friends: ‘I need to stop. Something’s got to stop. And if it’s the alcohol that’s doing this, and making things worse, then I quit.’

Jessica said she went to therapy twice a week and has been sober since that day.

‘When I finally said I needed help, it was like I was that little girl that found her calling again in life,’ she said.

‘I found direction and that was to walk straight ahead with no fear.

‘With work, I allowed myself to feel the traumas I’d been through. 

‘It’s been a long hard deep emotional journey one that I’ve come through the other side with pure happiness and fulfillment and acceptance of myself. I’ve used my pain and turned it into something that can be beautiful and hopefully inspiring to people.’ 

Doting mother: Jessica is pictured above with two of her children and signed copies of her upcoming memoir Open Book; with Maxwell and Ace

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