I want more from the guy I've been seeing but his daughter seems like an excuse

DEAR DEIDRE: A GUY I have been seeing says he can’t be in a relationship with me because of his daughter – but I wonder if he is using her as an excuse.

I have been seeing him on and off for the past three years.


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I’m 36 and he’s 50.

I want more than just to meet for occasional sex but he doesn’t.

He says he can’t commit because he has to put his daughter first.

But she’s 15 years old and lives with her mum.

I don’t think he has even told her about me.

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I love him but I’m not happy with this arrangement.

What can I do?

DEIDRE SAYS: Be firm and tell this guy being so casual is not your scene any more – and it won’t be in the future either.

You stand to be hurt if you carry on like this.

My support pack When Your Man Won’t Commit will help you think this all through.

Make sure you keep your social life going away from this guy and meet new people too.

Try to get out and have fun. Then you will slowly move on from this man who, I’m sorry to say, does appear to be using you.

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