My abusive father is constantly humiliating me in front of people

DEAR DEIDRE: DAD thinks I’ll never make anything of myself and he is constantly putting me down in front of people.

When I was a boy he’d call me “loser” or “idiot” and he’d make me cry.


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Despite him being so horrid, I did OK at school but then fell into the wrong crowd and got into drink and drugs.

I’m clean now, 27, and have got into university.

I’ve also got a part-time job where I was recently promoted, so I can’t be all bad.

Dad asked me to get some beer for him the other night but as I no longer drink, I didn’t want the temptation so I refused to go.

He told me to eff off and called me a w****r in front of my aunt and cousin who were visiting.

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I was so humiliated.

I just don’t get why he’s so abusive to me all the time.

DEIDRE SAYS: The chances are he had an abusive upbringing himself and he’s of the opinion that “it never did me any harm”.

Although we all learn from our parents, if things aren’t right, you can break the mould.

You know his attitude towards you has knocked your confidence but you’ve proved you can be strong and you can be the better person.

It’s unlikely you’ll change his behaviour but you don’t have to rise to the insults. Others will see your father for the man he is. You’ll realise you’re not alone if you check out My Horrid Parent (myhorridparent.com).

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