My boyfriend's drug addict brother moved in for lockdown and it's killing our relationship

DEAR DEIDRE: SINCE my boyfriend’s brother moved in with us for lockdown, our relationship has spiral-led downwards.

This brother has issues with drugs and it is causing huge rows. As they say, three’s a crowd.

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He has got his own flat but spends all his money on drugs so now he is sponging off us.

He’s 32 and my boyfriend and I are 27.

My boyfriend is a delivery driver and we barely have any time on our own, as his brother is there.

Our sex life is suffering too because his brother is in the next room and the walls are so thin.

All my boyfriend’s family have warned him this guy is bad news but it makes no difference.

He says blood is thicker than water.

But where does that leave me?

DEIDRE SAYS: That is exactly the question you should be putting to him.

Remember, you are his partner and this is your home – and he should be putting you first.

Perhaps he grew up trying to find favour with his older brother.

These early patterns can prove very hard to shift.

It is his choice.

Does he care more about pleasing his brother than you?

If he chooses his brother, it is time for you to move on.

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