My flatmate keeps threatening to steal my girlfriend

DEAR DEIDRE: MY flatmate keeps taunting me with threats about stealing my girlfriend.

He made it clear he fancied her when they met – the first time I brought her back – and now he won’t leave us alone.


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I’m 23 and he’s 24. My girlfriend is 22.

I think he’s jealous. He puts me down, saying she’s way out of my league.

I can cope with his comments.

What makes me mad is the fact he keeps sending my girlfriend flirty texts, leering at her and harassing her – to the extent she’s blocked him.

She doesn’t like coming round any more because he’ll say inappropriate things like: “Is it my turn later?”

I really like my girlfriend and she feels the same way about me.

It’s getting serious but he is spoiling things.

He beds a different woman every weekend. Why won’t he leave mine alone?

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We used to be mates but he can’t bear the fact I’ve got the one girl he can’t have.

What can I do? I can’t get out of my tenancy agreement for months.

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DEIDRE SAYS: He does sound both jealous and arrogant, which is probably masking deep insecurity.

But his behaviour is bordering on criminal.

This situation is unhealthy. Talk to your landlord to see if there is any way you can get out of your tenancy agreement early.

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You and your girlfriend should contact the National Stalking Helpline (stalkinghelpline.org, 0808 802 0300). It is for anyone who feels harassed or intimidated by the behaviour of another person but does not want to go directly to the police.

My support pack on Bullying should also be helpful for you.

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