How to spice up your sex life after having a baby

Even as a sex expert, Dana B. Myers’ sex life suffered after giving birth to two children, Rocky, now 7, and 4-year-old Indie. She struggled with exhaustion, a low libido and self-esteem issues.

But, determined to reclaim her sexuality, the 42-year-old founder of the boutique sex toy and beauty brand Booty Parlor strategized ways to reignite the passion with her husband, Charlie.

“It’s great to be in love with your children and the experience of motherhood, but it’s not the be-all and end-all,” she tells The Post. “Sensuality is a huge part of my life, and I recognize that my relationship is a lot happier when I’m nurturing it.”

Here, the Miami-based author of the new guide “The Mommy Mojo Makeover,” gives tips on how mothers can use technology to power up their relationship.

Get sex on the calendar

If your sex drives have fallen out of sync after having kids, consider scheduling some sexy time with your partner on Google Calendar. “For most parents, scheduled sex is the gateway back to intimacy,” says Myers.

Sext

Send your partner playful and provocative text messages. The app Between keeps your messages concealed on your phone. You can also record a voice message and send a sexy, steamy sound bite.

Not sure what to sext? Try these for starters: “Have your pants off when I get home … I’m feeling frisky,” or “I’m having a hard time focusing at work today. Because I can’t stop thinking about kissing every inch of you later tonight.”

Send a sexy selfie

Boost your confidence by showing off your curvy, post-baby body with a seminude selfie. “Expressing yourself as a confident, sensual woman and mama is empowering; a reminder of how bold, sexy, fun and unique you truly are,” says Myers. To ensure your naughty pics don’t end up in the wrong hands, try the app Wickr, which has an encryption system. You can also set your photos to tick like a time bomb for deletion.

Switch up your sex routine

If parenthood has helped make you fall into a boring lovemaking routine, consider exploring different positions with the help of the app 69 Positions, which has intriguing categories like “butterfly variations” and “face to face.”

Try aural sex

Download an erotic audio book to boost your arousal before sex, or listen in for some cheeky afternoon inspiration while you’re waiting for your kid to finish their karate lesson (with headphones, obviously). Or try the app Pillow.io. It’s essentially a choose-your-own-adventure game, where you pick a roughly 20-minute-long audio episode to listen to while lying in bed next to your partner (e.g., “Hot & Cold: Teasing Massage Temperature Play,” or “Blindfold Surrender: Let Yourself Be Taken”). Follow along to the play-by-play audio that instructs kissing, touching, changing positions and more. Says Myers: “Listening to another voice instruct you what to do can take the pressure off conjuring up sexual desire all on your own.”

*All apps mentioned are free and available for both iPhone and Android, save for Pillow.io, which is iPhone only.

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