I can't stop blaming myself for my son's suicide | The Sun

DEAR DEIDRE: FOUR weeks ago, my son killed himself, and I am overcome with guilt.

I keep feeling there was something I could have done to stop him, or that I should have realised he was so unhappy he wanted to take his own life.

He was only 21 and had struggled with mental health problems since his teens, but had always overcome them.

I’m his 51-year-old mother and my heart is broken.

Is there something I could have said? Should I have noticed just how bad things were for him and intervened?

Rather than getting easier, things are getting harder.

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DEIDRE SAYS: Do not blame yourself, please.

When people take their own lives they have often hidden their thoughts and feelings from every-one.

If he was determined, there is nothing you could have done.

Now it is you who needs some help.

Approach The Compassionate Friends (tcf.org.uk, 0345 123 2304) who offer help to bereaved parents and their families.

Support After Suicide (supportaftersuicide.org.uk) is an online hub for suicide bereavement charities.

My support pack on Bereavement will help you access counselling.

Get in touch with Deidre

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Send an email to [email protected]

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