I don't feel valued by my husband and I fear spending my retirement years with him | The Sun

DEAR DEIDRE: MY husband only notices me when he’s hungry, can’t find something or needs help.

I feel like I’m invisible.

He’s been a wonderful dad, works hard and shares chores at home but he doesn’t make an effort with anyone.

He has no friends and doesn’t go out or socialise with his colleagues.

I’m 60 and my husband’s 62. We’ve been married for 30 years but I’m fed up.

I’m the one who suggests days out and makes plans.

When going on holiday he literally turns up at the airport and asks where we’re going.

I’m terrified of retirement.

I don’t want to be stuck as we are, with nothing to look forward to. He says he loves me but I don’t feel valued.

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DEIDRE SAYS: This is no way to live. Your husband sounds like he takes your relationship for granted.

Talk to him, explain you need to relight the spark between you because you are seriously unhappy.

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