I find my partner less attractive since giving birth and it wounds him up | The Sun

DEAR DEIDRE: MY libido has disappeared since I gave birth nine months ago.

My partner tries to be understanding but also gets wound up and wants things to return to how they were before.

I’m 24 and he’s 26.

I put on nearly two stone while I was pregnant and have struggled to shift it since.

That affects my confidence.

My partner’s also put on weight and, if I’m honest, I find him less attractive.

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We had a heart-to-heart about how we both feel but nothing has changed.

I am just not interested in having sex.

DEIDRE SAYS: Lots of women do take time to regain their sex drive after having a baby.

The hormonal changes, stress and exhaustion take their toll, but it’s important to work at it together.

Your baby deserves to have loving parents, in a strong relationship.

Agree to tackle the weight gains with healthy eating and exercise together.

Long walks with the baby will be a good start and a great opportunity to reconnect.

My support pack Sex Problems After A Baby? explains more.

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