I want my wife to consider a threesome with me and her cousin | The Sun

DEAR DEIDRE: YEARS ago my wife had a threesome with her best pal and her mate’s boyfriend.

Now, I’d love a three-way with my other half and her sexy cousin but don’t know how to ask her.

We have been together for ten years and married for six. She’s 36 and I’m 39. Our little boy is five.

We’ve always been adventurous when it comes to sex. My wife likes dressing up and I love it when she does.

She’s got toys, whips and handcuffs. It’s paradise for me.

Last weekend our little boy was staying at my mother’s. My wife and I had a Sunday sex session and then talked about people we’d dated.

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She was pretty wild at uni and did a few crazy holidays in Magaluf and Faliraki.

Still, I was surprised when she told me she’d once had a threesome with her best friend and her boyfriend.

She’d got locked out of her halls so turned up at her mate’s student house in the early hours. Apparently, a cuddle led to kissing and then to full-blown sex. What a lucky guy.

She admitted she was drunk and the sex wasn’t that great.

My wife said she wouldn’t do it again but might consider swinging.

I was shocked by her admissions and realised I wouldn’t handle seeing her with another bloke. I am jealous enough as it is.

But I did like the idea of a threesome with another woman.
That’s a turn-on I can’t get out of my mind.

Her cousin is 33 and very sexy. She’s the type who’d be up for anything because she flirts with me every time she sees me.

My wife laughs it off. How can I get my wife to agree to it?

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DEIDRE SAYS:  If you’ve got a strong relationship you should be able to talk to her about anything, especially sex.

While third-party sexual relationships can work for some couples, it’s important to establish that both of you want to get involved.

Neither parties should be persuaded or coerced.
You have mentioned you struggle with jealousy, which is a red flag when it comes to threesomes, open relationships or polyamory.

Becoming intimate with a third party often brings feelings and emotions into play that no one expected.

My support packs on Threesomes, and Swapping And Swinging, explain more and will help you to establish some boundaries.

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