I want to divorce my wife – her bipolar disorder makes her 'crazy'

I am desperate to DIVORCE my wife with bipolar disorder – she lost a baby and had a ‘complete mental breakdown’… and I can’t handle her crazy anymore

• A man has revealed he is planning to divorce his wife who has bipolar disorder 
• The unnamed 26-year-old male said his wife, 26, had ‘abused’ him  
• He revealed he was going to divorce her but was afraid of how she would take it

A man has revealed he is planning to divorce his wife who has bipolar disorder because she has ‘abused’ him physically, and emotionally – adding that he is now in ‘fear’ for his life. 

The unnamed 26-year-old man took to Reddit to get all of his frustrations with his 30-year-old wife, whom he didn’t name. 

He explained that after they lost a baby, his wife had a ‘complete mental breakdown,’ and was shortly diagnosed with bipolar disorder. However, she has stopped taking her medication for quite some time, prompting him to be ‘afraid’ to be around his own spouse. 

Posting to the thread titled ‘True Off My Chest,’ the 26-year-old shared that his wife now ‘manipulates’ him into having sex and buying her jewelry, and tracks his every move. 

A man has revealed he is planning to divorce his wife who has bipolar disorder because she has ‘abused’ him – adding that he is now in ‘fear’ for his life (stock image)

The unnamed 26-year-old man took to Reddit to get all of his frustrations with his 30-year-old wife, whom he didn’t name

The post read: ‘My wife and I have been married for a year now, and I can’t handle her crazy anymore. We lost a baby back in January, and that triggered her to have a complete mental breakdown. She got diagnosed as bipolar a few months back, and when she was taking her medication everything seemed like it was back to normal. 

‘She hasn’t taken the medication or been to therapy in a very long time, and everything has gotten worse. I am genuinely afraid for my life and her life way more often than I should be.

‘She refuses violently to take her medication or do anything to get treatment. She will yell and scream and chew me out for an hour straight and then try to cuddle up to me or get sexual like nothing happened.

‘Her mood swings are getting extreme. She’s unpredictable at best but I have to walk on eggshells just to avoid getting hit on the back or the shoulder. 

‘I have bruises now. The worst of it was only last night when we were in bed and I didn’t want to cuddle in the position she wanted to. She sat up, straddled me, and hit my chest, neck, and face.’

He explained that she has recently quit her job, making his income the only one coming in. 

This has caused him and her to ‘barely have enough money to live’. 

And because she has no job, the anonymous woman never leaves their house and stays home and watches TV all day or waits for her husband to get back. 

The unnamed husband also shared that he is now manipulated into engaging in sex with her

The unnamed husband also shared that he is now manipulated into engaging in sex with her. 

He said: ‘She manipulates me into having sex (yes, it is very much manipulation now) for hours after I get home, and guilt trips me when I want to go see my friends or go to the gym or church. 

‘I am not taking summer college courses, so I have a little more free time than I did in the spring, and she has made sure that I spend every single minute of it with her. I feel less like her partner and more like her slave a lot of the time.’ 

He explained that her behavior has gotten so ‘obsessive’ that he found an Apple Airtag in his car and backpack. 

‘She’s controlling, she’s manipulative, calculating, and really cruel. Almost every single thing she does is like f***ing scientifically designed to either get something from me or punish me for not being enough. 

‘I found a chart in some notes on her phone of ways that have worked to get me to do things for her, like sex or household chores or to get me to buy her a gift or take her out. She has a f***ing extensive list of my daily schedule and activities.

‘Like if she wants sex or to watch a particular movie, or to go out to eat, or get me to buy her jewelry or perfume or clothes or shoes, she has this system of ways of asking me and coercing me into do it, with rewards and punishments to get me to mentally associate doing things or not doing things. It’s like training a dog except I’m her f***ing husband.’ 

He revealed that he feels like his life is a ‘nightmare,’ adding that ever since he discovered the list of ways she has successfully manipulated him, he can no longer look at her. 

He revealed that he feels like his life is a ‘nightmare,’ adding that ever since he discovered the list of ways she has successfully manipulated him, he can no longer look at her

The man said his plan was to leave the Airtags in his work locker and visit a divorce attorney. 

He noted that he would be telling her parents about everything as well. 

However, he said the only thing that was holding him back was the way his wife may react. 

He explained: ‘My big issue is I don’t know how she’s going to react when she gets the news. I’m thinking I might maybe get my documents and valuable stuff out of the apartment when I get home and pretend I’m taking them to a storage unit, and then call her from a hotel. 

‘I’m also going to have the cops on standby if she even makes any indication that she’s going to hurt herself.

‘But yeah, I’m done. I can’t do this anymore. Maybe I’m weak, or not tough, or an a**hole for not sticking with her, but I can’t keep living like this.’ 

Users on the social media platform flooded the comments section with advice, begging him to go to the police prior to telling his wife the news. 

One person commented: ‘It might be worth considering to talk to your local police and let them know you are leaving and not missing…that way if she does take that route they will be aware of the situation.’

Users on the social media platform flooded the comments section with advice, begging him to go to the police prior to telling his wife the news

Another user wrote: ‘Or if she really freaks out and comes at you with something more than her fists. If you have bruises when you go to talk to them, have them documented in case you have to subdue her just to get out of there. Good luck and be safe.’ 

‘Also, if you choose to stay somewhere else and you are keen on separating don’t forget a restraining order can help. It’s just a piece of paper, but having it on record in case you go missing or something would be helpful. I’m saying this as a female, for context.

‘The mental health part is so hard to deal with, being the support for it has to be a drain and you sound like a good guy. I hope things get better for you,’ added one person. 

‘I went through something similar with my ex wife and the cops in my town actually appreciated the heads up. I wound up staying in communication with a sergeant that initially responded to a call to our house towards the beginning of our issues, there was not much he could do until or unless she got violent but he was a great resource. They see this all the time,’ commented someone else. 

Someone else wrote: ‘There are ways for OP to work with legal authorities to have her involuntarily committed for psychiatric treatment, op could easily pack their bags and plan a smooth transition away while also getting this person they once loved help.’ 

Another user said: ‘Definitely get your belongings out of the house. This sounds like a terrible scenario. I hope you have somewhere safe to go where she can’t find you. Hopefully your lease is up soon so you can put notice in.’ 

One person commented: ‘Time to get the authorities involved so your wife can get the proper help, like get committed to a hospital for treatment. She is a danger to you and anyone around her. Mental problems are no joke and the longer you let it go on with out treatment the more likely something bad can happen.’ 

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