I'm 30-years-old and never had an orgasm – I worry that I may be incapable | The Sun

DEAR DEIDRE: DESPITE being a 30-year-old woman, I’ve never had an orgasm, either by myself or with a partner.

While I’ve tried plenty of times, I just can’t seem to feel the pleasure that everyone always talks about.

Up until last year, I had constantly been in and out of relationships, so I had never felt the need to properly explore my own body. But since

I broke up with my last boyfriend I have finally begun to enjoy singlehood.

Having a lot more time to myself has left me with an irresistible urge to pleasure myself that I’d never had before.

But every time I’ve tried I’ve just felt a whole lot of nothing.

Every problem gets a personal reply from one of our trained counsellors.

You can also send a private message on the DearDeidreOfficial Facebook page.

I’ve googled different techniques and tried various sex toys.

I’m starting to worry that I may be completely incapable.

DEIDRE SAYS: Know that this is normal, and as many as one in five women are in your shoes.

Pleasure is individual to you, and what is commonly misunderstood is that for a lot of women, pleasure can often begin in the brain.

Take the time to explore your body, and try to let go of the pressure you may feel to get it right.

I am attaching my support pack How To Masturbate which explains more.

My wife fell in love on holiday and never returned