My girl always wants unprotected sex – shes trapping me into having a baby

My girl wants unprotected sex – a lot of it.

She’s on my case 24 hours a day. I can’t sit down without her jumping on top of me suggesting a “quickie” or dragging me up to the bedroom.

She’s throwing herself at me and this isn’t normal. I fear she wants a baby. We’re in our early thirties and have always agreed that children are off our menu, but something has changed.

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A few months ago, her sister gave birth to her first child. I expected my girl to be indifferent, but she’s fallen in love with the boy and can’t leave him alone. She’s even tried to shove him in my arms for a cuddle.

Now her oldest friend has also had a child. It’s like a maternal switch has gone on in her brain and I’m scared. I’m worried she’s going to trap me into having a baby. I’m not interested.

I told her that the very first time we met. My late parents were drinkers and I pretty much brought up my two younger brothers on my own.

I fed, washed and looked out for them. I got them to school and protected them from our selfish parents. I’ve done my bit, and this is my life now.

I met my girl four years ago and the first thing I did was tell her about my awful childhood.

She said she understood and suggested we concentrated on having a good time instead.

Since then, we’ve done up our house, got great jobs and been on some fantastic holidays.

But now I suspect she’s thinking: “What’s next?” Parenthood is not for me and I resent her trying to change my mind. I like lots of sex, but not if it means being lumbered with sprogs.

JANE SAYS: Your girl is entitled to change her mind.

If certain hormones have suddenly kicked in and she’s experiencing an overwhelming urge to have a child, then that’s perfectly natural.

Your response needs to be controlled and measured.

You need to insist she calms down and talks about her urges and feelings. Has she now changed her mind?

Is she actively trying to get pregnant? Having a child is a serious matter and tricking you into parenthood wouldn’t be ethical or fair.

Maybe you need to split up while she finds someone else more paternal?

You had a horrible childhood, but you may feel differently once a child of your own is born. You may wish to nurture and protect it in a way your parents never did.Try to keep an open mind.

The reality is that you loathed your parents for being so neglectful. They made no effort for you.

But they’re out of your life now. Are you going to allow them to spoil your future too? You might be a natural father for all you know.

And don’t forget that any child would be half of you.

Keep talking and use condoms until you’re both sure of where you stand.

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