My girlfriend has gone off sex – how do I make her interested in me again? | The Sun

DEAR DEIDRE: SEX was always great with my gorgeous partner, but now she never wants to be intimate.

We both used to have a high sex drive but now we are at polar opposites.

I still find her irresistible, so being turned down every time I suggest making love is making me miserable.

We’ve been together for 12 years. I’m 49 and she’s 51.

Our physical intimacy took a downward turn two years ago.

Before that, we had sex at least three times a week, and she was up for anything I suggested.

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Now the only time I see her naked is when she’s getting undressed for bed.

She has the body of a woman half her age and I constantly tell her how sexy she is.

But she normally rejects my advances, saying she’s too tired and not in the mood.

On the rare occasion that she agrees to being intimate, I feel like she is just going through the motions.

I find the whole situation so depressing.

How do I make her interested in me again? I miss the relationship we used to enjoy.

DEIDRE SAYS: Given her age, it’s likely her low libido is due to the reduction in hormones that comes with menopause.

As women go through the menopause a drop in oestrogen can cause a dip in libido.

My support packs Menopause and Sex And The Older Woman may be helpful to read.

Tell her how much you miss the intimacy you shared. Suggest she sees her GP.

If she’s tired, offer to help out more. A change of scene – such as a holiday – could also help.

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