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DEAR DEIDRE: My obsession with dishy Rishi is driving my boyfriend away.

Even though I know my dreams and sexual fantasies about the Prime Minister won’t ever become reality, I can’t stop myself from thinking about him.

I’m 29 and my boyfriend is 31. We’ve been together for four years.

My crush on Rishi started during the Covid lockdowns. When I saw him talking about the financial support package, I loved how confident and polished he looked and sounded.

I was more than happy to eat out to help him out! 

His sharp suits, gorgeous dark eyes and cute sticky-out ears made me swoon. And given his nickname, I know I’m not alone.

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Since he became PM, it’s got even worse. I love the way he dominates the opposition during Prime Minister's Questions. 

My boyfriend thought my crush was amusing at first, but now it upsets him.

For one thing, he looks nothing like Rishi.

He says  – rightfully – that I wouldn’t like it if he spent all day every day lusting after Liz Truss.

He doesn’t have much money either, so Rishi’s success makes him feel insecure and inadequate. 

The problem is, this isn’t like a normal infatuation. I can’t avoid seeing or hearing Rishi on the news, on social media or in the papers.

But it’s starting to ruin my relationship. If I so much as smile to myself, my boyfriend will say, "You're thinking about Rishi again, aren’t you?”

Last week, we had a big row about it. He said I need to hold a personal referendum: either Rishi is out or he’ll leave me.

And he is clear that leave means leave.

He thinks I need psychological help because it’s not normal for a woman my age to have a crush like this. 

Please help!

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DEIDRE SAYS: 

Crushes are generally harmless, especially when they’re on someone as unattainable as the Prime Minister. 

But your crush is becoming unhealthy, as it’s preoccupying you and close to wrecking your home life.

To feel this strongly about a man who is not your boyfriend suggests there’s something missing in your life, your relationship, or both. 

Perhaps you really want to be with someone more confident and successful.

If that’s the case, it’s not fair to stay with your boyfriend and make him feel he isn’t good enough.

Or maybe you’re just feeling unfulfilled, and need to get a new interest or a new career. 

If you do love your boyfriend, you need to work on your relationship together. My support pack, Looking After Your Relationship, should help.

Like most crushes, yours will fade in time – certainly by the next Tory leadership contest.

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