My pals call me a modern-day Henry VIII because of the way I've treated women | The Sun

DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN I think about the way I’ve treated women throughout my life, I can’t sleep at night.

I was like the modern-day Henry VIII and feel so guilty about the way I have behaved toward partners.

I was a cheat, a flirt and a “bad boy”.

And even though I have changed now, I feel I need to make amends and cleanse my conscience.

Instead of divorcing or be-heading my wives, I’d just run off and leave them for someone else. My friends still call me King Henry. 

I’m 62 and now living with a wonderful woman who is 55. 

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I haven’t cheated on her in the two years that we’ve been together. But I have been married four times, and had countless other relationships. 

It may not sound believable but I did love all the women I was with.  My problem was that I had a very high sex drive. I was a thrillseeker.

Sex with just one woman just never fulfilled me. 

Once the initial passion and excitement had died down, I needed to find these things again, with someone else. 

Women have always found me handsome and people tell me I have the gift of the gab.

So I have never found it difficult to attract the female species. 
But acting the way I did has cost me a happy family life. 

Leaving my ex-wives meant I also left my four kids behind.

They are now aged between 34 and 23. 

I’ve tried to rebuild our relationships but I can’t make up for the years when I wasn’t there. 

When I met my partner, I realised that I had to change or I would end up a very lonely old man.

How can I learn to forgive myself for my past behaviour?

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DEIDRE SAYS: You’ve changed and you are remorseful. 

Beating yourself up about the man you used to be isn’t helpful or healthy.

While you can’t alter the past, you can work on yourself to understand why you behaved as you did.

It sounds like you may have or had a sex addiction. 

Getting to the root of this will help you move forward.

Contact Sex Addicts Anonymous (saauk.info) for information and advice, and ask your GP about a referral for sex therapy. 

My support pack Addicted To Sex has lots more information. 

The one titled Feeling Guilty may also help you.

If you want to apologise to your exes, you could write to them explaining how you feel. 

This can be cathartic, even if you decide not to send the letters.

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