We've been together for five years but have never had sex | The Sun

DEAR DEIDRE: EVEN though I have been in a relationship with my partner for five years, we have yet to have sex.

We do sleep together occasionally but I am unable to keep an erection for long.

This leads to disappointment for both of us.

I am 64 and the woman I am seeing is 61. I am divorced and she has been widowed for many years.

We met by chance at a cafe and gradually got to know one another.

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We have so much in common but both worry this problem will affect our relationship in the future if I can’t sort it out.

This would be a great shame as we get on so well. It is beginning to really stress me out.

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DEIDRE SAYS: The distress at not being able to perform has undermined your sexual confidence but you should talk to your GP.

Make enquiries about getting a medical check, in case the change in your erections is somehow connected to a health problem.

Also, reassure your partner that you are sure you can work through this together.

And do read my support pack, Solving Erection Problems, together, as it explains some self-help tactics.