Hubby can't stay hard whilst having sex with me but has no problem masturbating | The Sun

Dear Deidre: WHEN my husband pleasures himself he has no problem keeping his erection, but he can never stay hard enough to have sex with me.

Our sex life has virtually disappeared and now, if we are ever intimate, it’s just about his pleasure, and I’m left feeling frustrated.

He’s 32 and I’m 30. We’ve been married for two years.

I’ve tried talking to him and he says he still loves me and wants to make love, yet nothing changes.

I’ve caught him masturbating over porn, so now I feel really insecure – maybe he no longer fancies me because I don’t look like the women who turn him on.

I have needs, but he barely touches me.

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DEIDRE SAYS: If he has no problem staying hard during masturbation, this is almost certainly a psychological issue.

It’s a vicious cycle. The more he fears losing his erection, the more pressure he puts on himself, and the more likely it is to happen.

If he has become overly reliant on porn, this will dull his responses in real life. This isn’t about your attractiveness.

Tell him how this is making you feel and say you want to solve this together – my support pack Erection Problems gives you steps which you can take.

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