I can't get hard because my wife keeps accusing me of cheating | The Sun

DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife is always accusing me of cheating, then wonders why I can’t get an erection.

I’m 45, she’s 42.

Before I met her I was a bit of a Lothario. But when we tied the knot 13 years ago, I vowed to change my ways.

I have managed it, although I did have a slip earlier this year.

When our new recruit at work took a liking to me, I didn’t push her away.

Nothing happened, but we were texting a lot.

My wife knows nothing happened physically but all her trust in me is gone.

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I think that’s why I’m having trouble in the bedroom.

I can’t get it up, and when I do, it’s only for a few minutes.

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DEIDRE SAYS: There are various causes of erectile dysfunction but it does sound like yours may be psychological.

Perhaps you’re worried about your wife leaving, or feeling guilty about what happened.

If you fix the issues in your relationship, hopefully, the problems in the bedroom will subside.

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A good place to start would be couples counselling. Approach tavistockrelationships.org (020 7380 1960) to find someone local.

I’m also sending you my support pack, Relationship MOT, with some useful exercises to help.

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