I was my girlfriend's whole world but her obsession with our baby leaves me invisible | The Sun

DEAR DEIDRE: I USED to be my girlfriend’s whole world but these days I don’t get a look in.

I’m 32 and she is 29. We’ve been together for four years and our beautiful baby boy was born eight months ago.

Since the birth, all of her attention is on our baby.

I understand babies need a lot of care and attention, but I feel invisible.

My partner makes excuses if I offer to take him for a walk, saying he needs a nap or a feed or some other excuse.

I’m not allowed to bathe him because, according to my partner, I won’t handle him correctly.

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I’m missing out on bonding with our baby.

I now can’t get through a single day without feeling resentful.

I’m having horrible thoughts about my partner.

It’s making me feel like I’m a bad person.

DEIDRE SAYS: Becoming a parent often puts a strain on relationships, no matter what they were like before.

It’s important to make time for each other when you can.

Do little things to make each other feel cared for and included.

Your partner can’t read your mind. Your lives have changed, and you have to talk about it.

Agree a schedule including activities where you are the sole carer for your son, whether she goes out or you do.

Explain that it’s important you are given space to bond with him.

She may resist at first, but hold firm.

You are no less your baby’s parent than she is.

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