I'm sick of my mother in law calling all the shots | The Sun

DEAR DEIDRE: I AM sick of always coming second to my interfering mother-in-law.

She makes all the decisions about what goes on in our house, and how we bring up our five-year-old daughter, and my wife just goes along with her.

I’m 32 and my wife is 31. We’ve been married for four years. Her mother is 57 and doesn’t work, so has far too much time on her hands.

She is very critical of my wife, always telling her she is not good enough.

I think she has destroyed her confidence.

Last week, while I was at work, my mother-in-law rearranged all the lounge furniture.

She also decided which school my daughter should attend, without consulting me.

I feel excluded and upset.

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DEIDRE SAYS: Your wife is probably so ground down by her mum that she doesn’t question her interfering behaviour.

Your wife will struggle to choose between you both, but you can calmly explain how this is affecting you.

As a couple agree to some basic boundaries; a good start would be telling her mum, you would both prefer she visited when she is invited.

You and your wife will be the best judges of what works for your daughter, so start making the decisions together, as a team.

You can tell her mum what you have decided afterwards.

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