Since my surgery my husband won't have sex with me | The Sun

DEAR DEIDRE: THE first time my husband and I had sex following a gynaecological operation I’d had, I woke up to find blood all over the sheets.

Now my husband says he doesn’t want to be intimate again. He’s refusing to sleep in the same bed as me and he’s being cold and moody.

I’m 58 and he’s 60. We’ve been married for 30 years and have three grown-up children.

Sex was never a problem until after my surgery. But the bleeding freaked me out and, as far as my husband is concerned, our sex life is now over.

He says he won’t touch me again and he won’t discuss it.
I feel unloved and I’m really worried about our marriage.

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DEIDRE SAYS: This must have been shocking and upsetting.

First, it’s really important you talk to a doctor about the bleeding to make sure this is normal.

As for your husband, he was probably scared and worried he’d hurt you. Rather than deal with it, he’s pushing you away.

My support pack Looking After Your Relationship should help. Remind him you can be intimate without having intercourse until you’ve healed.