When my husband was diagnosed with terminal cancer, you helped me cope with the worst | The Sun

DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN my husband was diagnosed with terminal cancer, I felt so alone.

I was also angry at his daughters who barely visited him in the hospice and didn’t even bother to ring me to see how I was.

After 20 years with their dad, I was like a stepmum to them.

I’m 58, my husband is 60 and his daughters are 30 and 28.

I decided I wanted nothing more to do with them after he died, when that time came.

But the hurt and anger were eating me up.

You explained that some people find it hard to discuss a terminal diagnosis because they are upset and scared of saying the wrong thing.

You advised me to channel my energies into the time I had left with my husband.

And you recommended having bereavement counselling when the time came – which you detailed in your support pack.

Thank you. You made me feel that someone cared.

I was so touched when you followed up to see how I was.

I’ve turned to family and friends who do support me and I know I will cope when the worst happens.

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DEIDRE SAYS: Knowing we’re not alone makes loss and grief so much easier to deal with.

My thoughts are with you and your family.