Mother who claims her ex-husband made her lazy loses 3st

Mother, 44, who claims her ex-husband’s ‘lazy’ lifestyle made her fat, is now unrecognisable after losing 3st – and has found a new man

•  Melanie Saunders,44, from Milton Keynes piled on the pounds in her marriage
•  She lost three stone on the 1:1 Diet by Cambridge Weight Plan
• Her relationship crumbled when the mother-of-three gained confidence 

A woman who says her ex-husband’s unhealthy lifestyle made her fat, is now unrecognizable after shedding three stone and finding love with a new man.

Melanie Saunders,44, an education worker from Milton Keynes, piled on the pounds after meeting her husband and ditching her previously healthy lifestyle for his lazy and unhealthy ways.

The mother-of-three, says she was previously outdoorsy and active, until settling down with someone who thought that suggesting going for a walk was a dirty word which led to them adopting an unhealthy lifestyle which wasn’t Melanie’s normal pattern.

New partner Matthew and Melanie together on a night out, now that the mother-of-three has ditched the pounds she is much happier 

Melanie before her weight loss, she claims her ex-husband’s lazy lifestyle made her fat and that going for a walk was a ‘dirty word’

Melanie now, after losing three stone on the 1:1 Cambridge diet 

She added: ‘I used to go on hiking holidays and biking, but I settled down and met my husband at 21.

‘I was naive because we had very different lifestyles and I just started doing the things that he enjoyed.

‘We weren’t very active and both got sucked into a really unhealthy way of living.

‘We had more and more takeaways, which just weren’t part of my upbringing.

Melanie before her weight loss – The 44-year-old mum-of-three, says she was previously outdoorsy and active, until settling down with someone less active than herself 

As the 44-year-old gained confidence in her new figure her husand eventually decided to leave her

‘I slipped into this lifestyle and the weight piled on. I was so unhappy within myself.

‘I got up to 14st 9lbs at my biggest, and I realised how uncontented with my life I’d become.

‘I was falling and no one was catching me, so I knew I needed to do something about it so I decided to try The 1:1 Diet by Cambridge Weight Plan in October 2017.’

The takeaways were still coming into her home, but Melanie just had to learn to say no.

As the weight started to fall off, she gained confidence and felt like she was grabbing pieces of her old self back.

The education worker learned to say no to the takeaways still coming into her home as she was on a new diet, after having got used to her ex-husband’s diet 

Melanie said: ‘As I lost weight I started to get into the gym and ended up going every day and doing very active things with kids.

‘I was getting back to the old me, and my ex-husband began to stop seeing me as the person he wanted to be with because I wasn’t following the lifestyle we’d adopted.

‘He eventually ended up leaving me.

‘We were together for 19 years, so when we separated it was obviously a scary time.

‘I was selling our family home and looking to buy my own home for the first time.

‘It easily could’ve wobbled things with my diet, but I had to remember that the one thing I did have control over was what I was putting into my mouth.

The 44-year-old put herself out there again and found love with Matthew, who shares her passion for the outdoors  

Melanie said that her ex was never complimentary of her weight loss and ”never told me that he was proud or happy for me’

‘I only gave myself a one-week break from the diet over that Christmas period, but I was still really controlled with what I ate.

‘By the time February half term came around in 2018, I had already hit my goal weight.

‘My ex was never complimentary of my weight loss and never told me that he was proud or happy for me.

‘However, it didn’t matter because I was doing it for myself anyway.

Melanie’s diet before 

BREAKFAST: White toast with butter and Marmite

LUNCH: Pub lunch at the weekend – larger white bread sandwiches and chips. During the week – left over carb-heavy dinners

DINNER: Pizza and garlic bread

SNACKS: Crackers with cheese and butter, salt and vinegar crisps share bags, sweets and white chocolate

Melanie’s diet now  

BREAKFAST: Fast until lunch during the week and drink hot lemon water and black coffee. At the weekend – low carb bread with bacon

LUNCH: Ham salad

DINNER: Carb-free meal such as chilli con Carne without the rice or taco casserole

SNACKS: Walnuts, berries and natural yoghurt 

‘Things started to spiral because the more confident I was becoming, the more I came out of my shell and went back to being bubbly and loud which he really didn’t like.

‘He ended up leaving me the following year, in 2019.’

Melanie says that she soon realised that her relationship wasn’t meeting her personal needs and therefore she was feeding her soul in a bid to try and make herself happy.

She added: ‘Eating was a quick fix that would make me feel happy at the moment.

‘But in the long run, it was making me more miserable.

‘I’d never order a pizza or burger and chips now. I don’t need it in my life because I am happier overall.

‘The first year was a real struggle because the unhealthy lifestyle was embedded within me, and it still is in some ways, but it is just about keeping on top of it.

‘Overeating is just like any other addiction.

‘But I feel better than I have felt in years.

‘My youngest, Henry, 14, gets the most out of my weight loss because we do lots more active things together now that I wouldn’t have been able to do before.

‘I’ve been zip lining with him, we go on long bike rides, and we even go to the gym together at 6 am every day.

‘It’s a totally new way of life and it is amazing.

‘At the start, I kept taking the wrong size to the changing rooms when I went clothes shopping. I am just about getting into the habit of picking up the right size now.

‘It’s a much more enjoyable experience now. I love opening my wardrobe and seeing nice clothes that I know will fit me.

‘I was also able to find a new partner, Matthew because I had the confidence to put myself out there. I wasn’t lowering my expectations because of how I felt about myself and I was really clear on the type man I wanted.

‘We love doing outdoorsy stuff together, and with our kids as a blended family.

‘It’s incredible.’

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