The rape culture allegations that have rocked Britain's schools

The rape culture allegations that have rocked Britain’s schools: Harrowing Everyone’s Invited testimonies of sex attacks and harassment by pupils that have sparked calls for Ofsted probe

The Everyone’s Invited website has now received more than 10,000 reports of alleged sexual assault and rapes at schools across Britain. 

Soma Sara, 22, started the page with Meadow Walker, the daughter of late actor Paul Walker, after they bonded on Instagram when she spoke about surviving abuse after watching BBC drama I May Destroy You last June. 

The campaigner lives in France but was educated at an exclusive private Catholic school in Hampstead before boarding at Wycombe Abbey School in Buckinghamshire then completing an English master’s degree at University College London last year.

Soma Sara, 22, the founder of Everyone’s Invited, where people can share their stories of sexual assault 

Until now the allegations have focused on the private school sector, with some MPs calling for Ofsted to begin inspecting all independent schools, which it does not currently do. 

But the claims has now widened, with the number of state schools subject of harrowing allegations increasing by a third. 

The site allows users to submit claims anonymously, with many of the accounts naming the specific school.  Here are just some of the harrowing survivors’ testimonies from a small number of schools out of hundreds. Those mentioned have been contacted for comment. 

‘I was raped at a party, but my friends were just angry I got everyone kicked out’ 

Moorside High School: Co-ed secondary school in Stoke-on-Trent. 

‘When I was 15 I was at party with my friends. I got really drunk and got pulled into a bathroom with two 18-year-old boys one left while the other one raped me. 

‘I was left prompt outside the bathroom door crying and screaming ”he’s raped me” because of this the party got broken up and everyone got kicked out. All my friends hated me and told me it was my fault.

‘The next day all my friends message me telling me how much of slag I was how I’d ruined everyone’s night. 

‘One friend told me I could of ruined that boys like by making accusations.’  

Hampton School: Independent boy’s school in south-west London founded in 1557. 

‘In year 9 a boy at Hampton school kept asking me for nudes and at the time I trusted him and liked him.

‘I thought everything was fine until I heard from people that he had an app on his phone to screenshot Snapchat photos without the person knowing. I heard he did this to me and shared the photos with his friends and this completely humiliated me. 

‘He then tried to make me send again I said no and told him I knew he had photos but he denied having them on his camera roll. 

‘All his friends knew and I was so embarrassed I told no one. Scary to think someone you trust can do that to you. Years later he admitted to it but laughed it off.’ 

It is not known which school the girl attended.  

‘I woke up to a girl attempting to touch me – some people don’t realise consent goes both ways’ 

Parmiters School: Co-ed state comprehensive with academy status in Watford that dates back to 1681. 

‘It was at a party, I was asleep and I woke up and a girl was attempting to touch me. I was drunk. I have no consent. 

‘Some people don’t realise that consent goes both ways.’

‘He said he wanted to rape me and knew where I lived’  

George Abbot School: Co-ed secondary school and sixth form with academy status in Guildford. 

‘I was 16 with very little experience with men. A boy in school started saying hi to me in the library, I thought nothing of it and carried on with my studies.

‘On the evening that we finished our last GCSE the boy sent me about 25 Snapchat videos explaining in detail how he would f*** me and rape me and that he knew where I lived and he would come to my house.

‘He was drunk and his friends filmed him talking about my body and laughing about what he would do to me and sent me those videos too. 

‘I remember I felt paralysed and couldn’t leave the house for days afterwards.’

‘I was assaulted in a tent at a friend’s party’  

Eton College: World famous independent boarding school in Berkshire charging £48,501 per year. 

‘We were all sleeping in tents at my mate’s party. 

‘And I fell asleep around 2. I woke up to a boys fingers inside me and him on top of me. 

‘I pretended to stay asleep until I figured out what to do.’

It is not known which school the girl attended.’

A spokesman said: ‘Eton insists that all our pupils treat others with kindness, decency and respect. Specific allegations are always taken extremely seriously and we work closely with the relevant external authorities when necessary. 

‘We run workshops about healthy relationships and educate our pupils about consent. A number of further initiatives are in advanced planning. However, we must never be complacent and are always seeking to learn.’ 

Eton said today: ‘Specific allegations are always taken extremely seriously and we work closely with the relevant external authorities when necessary’

‘I woke up to find one of my good male friend’s naked on top of me’ 

Charterhouse: Historic boarding and day school in Godalming, Surrey, with fees of £40,695 each year. 

‘I was at an after party with all of my friends. I was very drunk and blacked out. I woke up to one of my good guy friends naked on top of me and they had taken my pants and trousers off. 

‘They were trying to have sex with me and when I woke up I was in the most pain I’ve ever been in. When they saw I had woken up they started shouting at me for bleeding onto the bed.

‘They made me feel so uncomfortable and embarrassed me about the situation. I walked home at four in the morning very confused but feeling really guilty and ashamed with myself as they had embarrassed me. I was in a relationship with a friend of theirs and they manipulated the situation so I wouldn’t really tell anyone.’

This testimony was from a boy. 

‘He forced himself on me, I felt like I couldn’t breathe’ 

Cranbrook School: Co-ed state funded boarding and day grammar school in Kent. 

‘I was under the age of consent and he was two years over it. I was at a party and it was one of my first times drinking heavily and when he started to kiss me I was so excited – until he pushed my head down to his penis and held it there and it felt like I couldn’t breathe. 

‘Until he took me to his car where I blacked out to the memory of him forcing himself inside me. I woke up unconscious in a corridor of the party having lost my shoes, my pants and my bra, having a hazy recollection of what had happened. 

‘When I went into school the next day I was labelled a slut for having had sex so young and so publicly, while a photo of my lost bra and shoes circulated around school. Surely people would have realised that if I was so drunk to have lost my shoes and underwear, I couldn’t have had the capacity to give consent?

‘If you recognise this story, please don’t contact me about it – I just wanted people to see it from my point of view, and maybe feel confident to share stories about their own experiences of Cranbrook, where I felt that rape culture was really normalised.’ 

‘A boy assaulted me, then his girlfriend called me a slut’  

Cardinal Newman College: Co-ed Catholic sixth form college in Preston. 

‘During my time at six form, my best friends boyfriend got me drunk to the point of unconsciousness, took me to bed, asked her to leave the room and then assaulted me. He was completely sober. 

‘I still to this day thank god it wasn’t worse. That she came into the room and stopped it before it went further. That makes me so angry that I’m grateful.

‘After this happened her boyfriend told her that I had missed him. She believed him even though she’d seen what was happening. She told me I was a slut and never spoke to me again.’

‘His defence was he’s gay and didn’t enjoy it’ 

Lincoln Minster School: Co-ed day and boarding school charging £14,460 per year that traces its roots back to 1265. 

‘I was on a school trip when I was 14, a boy in front on the bus leant back and stroked my legs, sticking his fingers in the rips in my jeans, ”accidentally” touching my crotch and breasts. 

‘We told a teacher she said she’d talk to him, his defence was that he’s gay and didn’t enjoy it.

‘I haven’t worn those jeans since.’ 

‘He pointed at me and said ”you’re too frigid for this, you’re too frigid for that”’ 

Fortismere School: Mixed secondary school and sixth form in Muswell Hill, Greater London. 

‘I was barely 14 and was at the guy I liked’s house. I had only ever kissed boys before, and only known this boy for about 3 weeks. We were sat in his living room with a drinking games book, just reading the different games. 

‘He started going through the stripping/sex ones and pointing them saying ”you’re too frigid for this, you’re too frigid for that”. 

‘At the time I didn’t even know what sexual harassment was, so I just was embarrassed and didn’t want him to think I was frigid. I sat there near tears and never mentioned it again. 

‘After 6 months of him making manipulative jokes and hints about sex or what other couples were doing compared to us, I lost my virginity to him on my 15th birthday week. I regret it so much, and still blame myself.’ 

How ex private school pupil, 22, behind Everyone’s Invited co-founded movement from her grandmother’s Paris home with actor Paul Walker’s daughter

By Martin Robinson for MailOnline 

The former boarding school girl whose personal account of ‘rape culture’ has snowballed into a sex scandal engulfing Britain’s entire education sector launched her campaign from the bedroom of her grandmother’s home in Paris during lockdown.

 Soma Sara, 22, started the Everyone’s Invited movement with Meadow Walker, the daughter of late actor Paul Walker, after they bonded on Instagram when she spoke about surviving abuse after watching BBC drama I May Destroy You last June.

The campaigner lives in France but was educated at an exclusive private Catholic school in Hampstead before boarding at Wycombe Abbey School in Buckinghamshire then completing an English master’s degree at University College London last year.

Soma Sara, 22, started the Everyone’s Invited movement to allow people to share their testimonies 

Miss Sara’s campaign claiming ‘rape culture is everywhere’ has engulfed thousands of UK schools and universities but also gained huge traction from all over the world, especially in the United States, with Miss Walker running the project across the Atlantic.

Fast and Furious actor Mr Walker was killed in a car crash in 2013, leaving behind his daughter Meadow, then 15. 

Now 22, Meadow, runs the global foundation in her famous father’s name and is now using her Instagram account with 2.5million followers to support teenagers who suffered sexual abuse in schools and universities as a co-founder and trustee of Everyone’s Invited, which is run by volunteers.

Miss Sara – who has previously said she is half Chinese and has an American grandmother – started the campaign after she and some friends discussed their stories of being abused, shamed and teased by boys.

She claimed their experiences were ‘characterised by an endemic rape culture’ and that ‘misogyny and sexism was the bedrock’. 

Meadow Walker, the daughter of late actor Paul Walker, runs the global foundation in her famous father’s name

Miss Sara said she had spoken to her American grandmother about the abuse, and told the Times: ‘She says it’s been going on forever. It’s still a very patriarchal society and boys feel the need to prove themselves to each other. The only new thing is the social media technology which exacerbates and spreads these behaviours.’

Miss Sara added that she had  been ‘fetishised for being Asian’, being told: ‘Where are you really from? Can I get with you?’ and ‘constantly being compared with this Japanese porn star’. Miss Sara added: ‘I’m half Chinese. It was really disturbing but I accepted it.’

Created last year, contributions to the Everyone’s Invited website have surged since the murder of Sarah Everard from South London earlier this month. 

Although hundreds of prestigious private schools have been named and shamed, many other women have also used the platform to reveal their ordeals within the state education system, at university or the family home.  

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